WEEK #92 HOW ARE WE DOING? A personal note…

“Where you invest your love, you invest your life.”
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He was on the ground crying. It had been too intense. “Only” three months had passed since they started their cycling adventure together. Ushuaia to Alaska is their plan, south to north. He was now on the ground of the airport, alone. She had gone home, this was as far as she could go, they both knew this moment was coming.

Now he was alone. A drastic change in his journey, one he couldn’t yet accept or realize. How would he keep going? How could he keep going? They had been through so much already, now he had to be by himself.He sat across from me, speaking emotionally with his French accent. It was good to listen to him. We shared some food, beer and (free) wine in the hostel. Two trans-continantal cyclists. We told each other stories and experiences, the good and the not so good. Anything can happen at any given moment. When you’re alone on the road there is nobody you can rely on. Instinct, intuition and clear thinking, that’s what you need.

Together we looked at maps of South-America, how had he cycled and what had been my route? Tips, tricks and places to fill water and find food were exchanged.
Slightly buzzed we headed to our dorm and fell asleep. The following morning I headed off, wishing him all the luck, to enjoy the scenery along the way. I also told him to never forget that we are never really alone. He was going to be alright.Two days later I met another cyclist. I was battleing a heavy headwind uphill, he was clearly enjoying the downhill with the strong tailwind. We talked shortly about each others routes, then he told me something that changed the way I look at things.

Less than a year ago he lost his wife while cycling in Bolivia. She was hit by a car and killed instantly. He was alone in the airplane back home.
Before this tragic incident they had cycled from the North Cape, Norway to Cape the Good Hope, South Africa, an amazing trip. I can only imagine how a journey like that strenghtens the bond between two people. They were now on their way from Ushuaia to Alaska.

In Bolivia he lost his wife, yet he keeps going. Alone. He will visit the place where, less than a year ago, he lost his partner, his lover and his best friend. His soulmate.
Though we only spoke briefly by the side of the road, I am deeply touched by the pure emotional thought of what this man is going through, and has been through.  Wherever he is now, I hope he comes to terms with this tragic loss and finds peace in his heart and soul. My thoughts and respect go out to him.
I told the French cyclist that we are never really alone. Now I don’t know. After hearing this story I am lost in thoughts, having no words to describe what goes on in my mind.To find someone you love is very special. To have a partner in crime, to be able to share moments in life, the good ones and the difficult ones. It is something we must charish and hold close to us. Don’t take it for granted. Ever.

We are never really alone.

From Chile,

Dirk Spits

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  1. Much love from Guatemala Dirk! We’re with you.

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